Thursday, July 25, 2013

Ah, Sweet Vacation... Maybe?


Vacation…
The word alone conjures up dreamy thoughts of relaxation, beautiful scenery, sandy beaches, clear blue water…
But what does it take to actually get there? Funny you should ask.
A while back I wrote a blog post about “Is fun fun? Or is fun work?” and this vacation topic I’ve chosen - actually am currently living through - is a true example of that same theme. My goodness, vacation can be a lot of work. In order to sit quietly in our boat or on a beach, there exists many-a-task we must accomplish to that end.
In order for Todd and I to spend a week on our boat, we divide and conquer our chores. I plan and shop for a good amount of meals. I try to cover all of the basic food groups from fresh fruit and vegetables to meats, breads and dairy. Throw in some M & M’s and a bag of cherry pull-n-peel licorice, and we’re good to go. The trick comes in thinking about how to keep fruit fresh and cold items cold. It’s not always easy storing ten pounds of stuff in a five-pound space. Early in the trip, we dine on luscious green grapes and yellow peaches. Later on we revert to applesauce. We can’t count on every marina along the lake to have a town nearby with a grocery store handy. Much like the wisdom of Forrest Gump, “Ya never know what you’re gonna get…”
I launder all of our clothes, count out underwear and sock choices for eight days, always planning for an extra day, “just in case” since most boaters have taken an unexpected plunge into the water at least once. Will the weather be hot? Pack the swimsuits. Will it be cold with gale-force winds? Pack the parka. From past experience, we know we can expect a little of each.
Once all of our food and clothing items are packed into our boat (which is an especially enjoyable task in 90-degree heat) I wipe the sweat from my brow, feeling much more settled and ready. So I help Todd, whose list is much more lengthy than my own. He needs to be prepared with tools and extra this-n-that’s. Since we’ll be towing an 11,000-pound load, he likes to be ready for just about anything and everything. We’ve been around the block enough times to know that even though these trips are designed for relaxation, one can only truly relax if we’re 100 percent prepared (which we all know isn’t really possible).
So on a stifling hot July Friday, we finally pulled out of our driveway at 12:30 p.m. I texted our kids, “We’re on the road – geez what a production! Let the good times roll.” Twenty minutes later, our Suburban made a loud noise, and we realized we’d had a blow-out on its rear passenger tire. This cannot be good I thought to myself. Either we’re getting our bad experiences out of the way early, or we’ll be barraged with trouble throughout the week. Whoever even knows, you know?
So Todd cranked the handle that removes our boat trailer from the Burb and began the grueling sweaty task of jacking up our vehicle and changing the tire. Did I mention how hot it was? From lying on the pavement, poor Todd now has asphalt embedded into his shoulder blades. Thank goodness we were effortlessly able to find air for the tire and even another spare, so we suddenly felt lucky and blessed. Maybe we really are getting all of the bad out of the way early… (Maybe…?)
We made it through Milwaukee and traveled two-thirds of the way to our destination when all of a sudden the rear driver’s tire blew. Oh man, are ya kiddin’ me???  Thankfully the tire blew near a freeway off-ramp, and we were able to get off and find a parking lot for Todd to repeat his entire routine yet again. This time, no spare tire was available.
We placed a call to the people we’d be boating with for the upcoming week, letting them know we were definitely running late. They were sympathetic and helpful as always, assuring us that one of them had a spare for us, should we need another. They were having the exact opposite type of day than us. They’d spent their hot July Friday lounging by the marina’s pool, as they decided what they might eat for dinner that night. Oh to be lounging, oh to be planning menus…
Todd and I had a decision to make. Should we count two blow-outs as an omen, cut our losses and head home - a two-hour drive back, chancing the same problems we’d already encountered? Or should we proceed on the road ahead and hope for the best…?
Well, we continued on, of course. We usually do. After all, we planned for this vacation all year long. Giving up at that point would have brought a sick feeling all its own. By 6 p.m. – only three hours late - we got to our destination hot and tired; but our calm, cool friends were there waiting for us, smiling and helpful – and they’d even waited to have dinner with us too.
So, to wrap up this blog entry, I’d like to say that though my dutiful and exhausting preparations of food and clothing are needed, the true challenge comes in the mechanics of this whole operation. We felt very blessed and fortunate to have made it through two blow-outs without injury – either to ourselves or to anyone else. All the waxing of fiberglass and staining of teak that Todd worked on through this past spring didn’t matter a fig if the tires or an engine aren’t running properly. Just like people, physical beauty only goes so far – it’s what exists down deep that matters. Once that’s in order, the rest falls into place.
And a special shout-out to the members of the Waukesha Cruise Fleet, our boating club, who are always so helpful. After a long, hot day it felt great to have you waiting for us.  Thank you!
Oh, and you can bet there’ll be more vacation stories to come – as they unfold! J
Katie Kolberg Memmel is the author of “Five Fingers, Ten Toes – A Mother’s Story of Raising a Child Born With a Limb Difference. For more information, visit her website: www.katiekolbergmemmel.com 

Thursday, July 11, 2013

"Positively Milwaukee..." Wow!


Well, hello there!
It’s been a few weeks since I posted a new blog.  I ask you with complete sincerity - Where in the world is this summer going? My goodness, it’s flying by, isn’t it? We’re a whole week past the 4th of July already. And it’s not that I haven’t been writing. I HAVE!!! I started one thing, then jumped to the next thing, hopped over to the next thing… YIKES! So many random thoughts, so little time… my mind can be a busy (a.k.a. scary) place some days.
As many of you know, we also had something interesting happen here at the Memmel house. I struggled with whether or not I should blog about it, but in the end I decided what the h*ck! It’s good news, and our world comes up plenty short on good news most days.
For the last two-thirds of a year or so, I’ve worked with diligence to get the word out about my book, “Five Fingers, Ten Toes – A Mother’s Story of Raising a Child Born With a Limb Difference.”  http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_c_0_20?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=katie+kolberg+memmel&sprefix=katie+kolberg+memmel%2Caps%2C172   Many of you have already read it, and for that I am pleased and very grateful. But I know, I just KNOW, there are so many more families living with situations that I believe could benefit from hearing our family’s story.
And so I persist. As a new author I know that if I don’t speak up on my book’s behalf, then how will people learn about it? How will they know it exists? Consequently, I’ve contacted an assortment of old friends and acquaintances from the many avenues of life that my five (count ‘em, five, it’s true!) decades of living have introduced me to. Most of these people remember me and the fact that I had a child born with one arm, so it’s not that crazy of a notion. It’s been so much fun to reconnect with many of them, and to catch up on their own lives and familial happenings.
One dream I had was to be able to get our story on television.  So far in his career, Tony’s been interviewed a number of times, sharing his own motivations for playing music and living life; but I also wanted to let people know that a solid, real book now exists about how things happened for us – our family - not just present day, but years ago… at the very beginning. That is a story that so many young moms and dads need to hear when they begin their own journeys of raising children that possibly face challenges – not just limb differences, but all challenges. How does all of this feel from a young parent’s perspective? How do I let people know that they’re not ‘alone out there’… that others have been there… that I’ve been there too…?
I believe that the internet has helped in this process. Addresses, phone numbers, e-mail, Facebook – it’s all much more accessible than ever before. And yet I’m not gonna lie - it’s tough to break through. I tossed my hat into a multitude of rings, with no tangible way of knowing how many other interesting and amazing hats were tossed ahead of mine. Still, I have something to say that I truly believe in - so I keep trying to find people who’ll really listen to and hear me.   
One night before bed I checked my e-mail. Imagine my excitement when I received word that our local NBC news channel, TMJ4, wanted to record a news piece for their “Positively Milwaukee” segment. Wonderful! Exciting! Oh sure, you betchya! ;)
The news anchor, Carole Meekins, and I exchanged dates and times, arranging our interview day. We established that the filming would happen at our house. With less than a week to prepare, I would soon be hosting a TMJ4 news anchor and cameraman in my living room. I had one major question: What shall I clean first???
But seriously, I tried to keep it all in perspective. Since I was relatively sure neither of my guests would be checking my closets for clutter, or my cupboards for cleanliness, I decided to concentrate on the real deal… What are my main objectives for this interview? How can I fight my own feelings of nervousness to get my point across to my community, as well as anyone else this might reach someday? What should I wear…? ;) (Not really kidding… right ladies?)
And so I did clean the house – of course I did. Having a nice, presentable area can create a sense of confidence for me. But I also did something else. I prayed. I prayed because I realized that none of this is really about me. It is and it isn’t. Yes, I lived it. Yes, Todd and I raised two great kids. Yes, we loved and disciplined our parental b*tts off ;)  But there is an entire behind-the-scenes story to tell here… a story of trusting in my Creator; a story of believing that all things will work together for the good of those who love God; a story of believing that there’s a larger purpose to what happens to me and those I love; a larger purpose to ‘’what I have to say’ than simply ‘what I have to say.’ What does God want me to say?
And so I asked Him. I asked Him to give me a good experience that day – for wisdom, confidence and ability, calmness and a clean house, and something nice to wear and … I think you get the picture. In those few moments of stillness, before the news folk got here, I believe He encouraged me to spend some time quieting down, to review my book – to re-look at and refresh myself with what I’d written, what it meant, and the manner in which I said it. And wouldn’t you know… when Carole and her cameraman (Jim) showed up, I felt pretty good!?  They were both so nice, kind, easy to chat with. I’d had nothing to fear. After all, I have the best coach in the universe.
After their visit, Carole Meekins contacted me and said that there was so much good information they’d like to split the interview into two sections – two Mondays in a row. One would focus more on Tony, and the other one more on me.  The opportunity went from one segment to two. Wow, you know? …  I’ve included the links here – just in case you haven’t seen them yet.
Part One – Aired July 1, 2013:
Part Two – Aired July 8, 2013:
At this middle-aged time of my life, I feel like I’ve learned so many things. If you have a good idea, something that feels inspired, it probably is. Persist with the idea – no one will know about it unless you tell them. Be ready. Prepare. And Pray. One way or another, things will turn out exactly as they should.
Thanks for the opportunity to share my experience with you all. I hope that this finds each of you actively engaged in some sort of good or fun summertime experience.
And until I write again… God’s Blessings!

For more information on  Katie Kolberg Memmel, go to her website: www.katiekolbergmemmel.com